"It's homophobic."

By Christopher Luu
Updated Feb 08, 2020 @ 2:30 pm
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Long hair? Whitney Port and her husband, Tim Rosenman, don't care for commenters saying that their son, Sonny Sanford, shouldn't have it because it makes him look feminine. In a new YouTube video called "I Love My Toddler, But Let’s Talk About His Hair," Port and Rosenman explain that they've been getting negative comments on social media because of Sonny's hairstyle and that some of the statements actually seem homophobic.

"Welcome to I love my toddler but he can look however he wants," Port started. "Sonny has always had great hair. He was born with hair, lots of it. When I was like eight months pregnant, the ultrasound technician was like, 'You better get a comb ready, because this baby has a lot of hair.'"

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Sonny makes regular appearances on Port's Instagram and he has enviable long, blonde curls. Sometimes, Port pulls his hair back into a ponytail and other times, it's free-flowing, but no matter how she styles her son's locks, Port explains, the comments just roll in.

"I put a picture up of Sonny on my Instagram, as I usually do and someone commented: 'He looks like a she, Whitney. I get the whole not wanting to depict their gender but jesus, this is the third pic of him today that if I didn't know he was a son I’d most def think he was a girl," she continued, adding, "There's so much wrong in there."

Some commenters stood behind Port, saying that hair is hair and that nobody should be saying that certain styles are masculine and others are feminine. She echoed the sentiment, urging people to be more open-minded.

"First off, what is a he supposed to look like and what is a she supposed to look like. There isn't any supposed to look like anything," Port said. "Whoever said that because boys have long hair that makes them less of a boy, I just don't understand that."

Port's husband noted that some of the comments seemed homophobic — and she agreed.

"It's homophobic and this felt like something I needed to respond to because I’m not cool with that,” Port said. "It's one thing if people think I complain a lot or they’re saying something negative about me, but to be homophobic and let that live on my feed, I needed to respond back."

"We are not pushing him towards heterosexuality or homosexuality. He will just be whatever he is born to be and we’re here to support that. Not push him in one direction or another," Rosenman said.

Port and Rosenman called the comments "antiquated" and said that as Sonny grows up, they'll be having conversations with him about the way people see things like long hair. Port said that no matter what, she'd support her son whatever way he decided to express himself, whether it is with his hair, clothes, or anything else.

"It is frustrating to think that Sonny will be in a world where these people exist and they have these antiquated opinions, but I think it’s our job to have these kinds of conversations with him," Port said. "It's important to have these conversations, to support your children when you maybe see the tiniest ounce of what would be called 'different,' to support that difference, and make them feel that it's OK."

Rosenman was a little more blunt, saying, "If he wants to wear a dress, he can wear a fucking dress."

The long hair may not last much longer, however. Port explained that it's getting to a point where it's difficult to maintain and that, sometimes, knots can form and irritate Sonny's scalp. She insists that it won't be bullies that make the decision, it'll be her.

"I think it's becoming more of a frustration for him. I think it’s painful for him. He doesn’t have the tools to change it himself, so I feel like as parents, we have to make those kinds of decisions for him," Port said. "So when you see him with short hair, it is not anything that you said, it is just to make sonny’s life a little bit easier."