Lenny Kravitz and Lisa Bonet Are Ex-Couple Goals

They turned their failed romantic relationship into a successful friendship.

Lisa Bonet and Lenny Kravitz as a young couple


Four-time Grammy-winning musician Lenny Kravitz, 58, and Emmy-nominated actress Lisa Bonet, 54.

How They Met

Kravitz and Bonet reportedly met backstage at a New Edition concert in the mid-'80s. He was a struggling musician; she was the stylish and free-spirited actress best known for her role as Denise Huxtable on The Cosby Show. Their relationship began as a friendship, evolved into a roommate-ship, and turned into a romance. They eloped in 1987 and welcomed their baby daughter Zoë Kravitz in December the following year.

Why We Loved Them

When the pair began dating, Kravitz was a relative unknown. In fact, he was often referred to in the press as "Mr. Bonet." And despite craving a professional identity of his own, he "didn't care" that she outshone him. "She was like a female version of me," Kravitz told Rolling Stone in a 1995 interview. "That woman inspired me so much. It was a magical time that she and I shared. I just opened up artistically."

When They Peaked

I mean, I-C-O-N-S.

Lenny Kravitz and Lisa Bonet holding baby Zoe at an event
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Bonet and Kravitz peaked decades after their relationship ended. Not only have they remained friends, they actively hang out (at the Met gala and fashion shows). "Zoë's mom and I now are best friends," he revealed in Oprah's Master Class. "When we're all together now — her man, her kids, Zoë, me — we're all together and we're one big, happy family. It's beautiful and it just shows you what can be done."

Lenny Kravitz wearing an all-black suit and Lisa Bonet in a vintage dress on the red carpet
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He took the ex-love a step further in 2019, telling People he and Bonet "are like brother and sister."

Lenny Kravitz in a leather jacket and sunglasses alongside Lisa Bonet in a multicolored dress
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The Breakup

By 1991, Bonet and Kravitz's relationship had ended — their divorce was finalized in 1993.

"I think I just wasn't ready," Kravitz told Flatt in 2014 of the demise of his and Bonet's romantic relationship.

"I had to take a break. I went through a lot of emotional things, a lot of deaths in my family," he says of the period.

"I was in tremendous pain when we broke up, tremendous," he told Rolling Stone. "For, like, six months, I only slept for two hours a day, from 4 a.m. to 6 a.m. The rest of the time I was just up, like a zombie. I was floored."

Where They Are Now

Following her divorce, Bonet legally changed her name to Lilakoi Moon to distance herself from her acting career. "I don't plan to work in this business more than 10 years," she told The Washington Post back in 1987. Somewhat true to her word, Bonet appeared in a few projects in the new millennium.

Bonet wed Jason Momoa in 2017 after the two dated for over a decade. They share two children: Lola Ionlani, 15, and Nakoa-Wolf Manakauapo Namakaeha, 13. In January 2022, Bonet and Momoa announced that they would separate after 16 years together.

 Lisa Bonet in a satin gown, holding hands with Jason Momoa who is wearing a purple suit

While Kravitz has had a pretty active dating life since his split from Bonet (Vanessa Paradis, Adriana Lima, Nicole Kidman), to name just a few former flames), he has yet to re-marry.

Kravitz has been recognized for his musical talent by winning a number of awards, including a grammy for Best Male Rock Vocal Performance — four years in a row. In fact, he holds the title for most wins in that category and most consecutive wins in one category by a male artist. Clearly, he's no longer known as "Mr. Bonet" to anyone.

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