What, did anyone still think it was a secret?

By Christopher Luu
Updated Mar 20, 2020 @ 3:00 pm

Even though Taylor Swift has never directly spoken about her relationship with British actor Joe Alwyn, her fans (and just about everyone else) certainly think that they are together. It's a full 180 from her days of dating Tom Hiddleston and Calvin Harris, where PDA made headlines and social media posts were the norm.

But while the spotlight is now focused on Swift's work, her relationship with Alwyn has still been the subject of speculation since the two were first spotted together. Over the last few years, fans have dissected Swift's lyrics for any details and watched Miss Americana frame-by-frame to catch a glimpse of him.

Here's everything we know, from they're maybe-meet-cute at the Met Gala to they're almost-public awards show appearances.

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May 2016

Many fans believe that Swift and Alwyn met at the 2016 Met Gala. Why? Her song "Dress" has the lyrics "Flashback when you met me / Your buzz cut and my hair bleached." Swift was dating Calvin Harris at the time.

October 2016

There's still nothing official, but fans notice that Swift and Alwyn were both at the same NYC Kings of Leon concert and the after-party at the Bowery Hotel.

November 2016

Swift attends the premiere of Billy Lynn's Long Halftime Walk. Alywn features in the film, but there's no proof that they hung out together at the event.

May 2017

The rumors start to intensify. Most of Swift's fans aren't familiar with Alwyn, but he has two huge projects in the works: The Favourite and Mary Queen of Scots. Up until this point, Swift's relationships were all high-profile (see: Joe Jonas, Calvin Harris, Tom Hiddleston). That was about to change.

"Taylor and Joe are the real deal, this is a very serious relationship," The Sun reported. "But after what happened with Tom Hiddleston, they were determined to keep it quiet."

June 2017

Alwyn and Swift are caught by the paparazzi for the very first time. Once, in Nashville and, a month later, in NYC.

December 2017

The couple engages in some very public PDA at iHeartRadio’s Jingle Ball in New York City. It all goes down during Ed Sheeran's set. Apparently, Sheeran and Alwyn are pals. The Daily Mail reported that Sheeran said that Alwyn was "really, really friendly; really good dude."

February 2018

Rumors emerge that the pair has moved in together.

May 2018

They're together, but not really. Swift and Alwyn post snapshots by the same cactus while on vacation.

September 2018

Swift finally opens up about her relationship, telling British Vogue, "I'm aware people want to know about that side of things. I think we have been successfully very private and that has now sunk in for people ... but I really prefer to talk about work."

Later that month, Swift promotes Alwyn's film The Favourite on Instagram.

October 2018

Alywn commends Swift's political endorsements, saying, "I think it’s great, and I think it’s important." She endorsed two Tennessee congressional candidates after staying out of politics for her entire career.

December 2018

Swift attends the Leicester premiere of Mary Queen of Scots.

January 2019

The Favourite is an awards-season, ahem, favorite. Swift and Alwyn hit up the Golden Globes after-parties together.

February 2019

Swift attends the BAFTAs with Alwyn, where they're spotted holding hands. The two also attend the Oscars after-parties together.

May 2019

The couple sit down for a double date with Robert Pattinson and Suki Waterhouse in Paris.

August 2019

Swift's fans comb the song "Lover" for any clues. "I've loved you three summers now, honey, but I want 'em all" and even "Ladies and gentlemen, will you please stand? / With every guitar string scar on my hand / I take this magnetic force of a man to be my lover" are enough for them to speculate about wedding vows.

October 2019

Alwyn and Swift are seen at SNL after-parties after she performs on the show.

December 2019

Alwyn speaks about the relationship during a sit-down with the Sunday Times, saying that 99% of the news about him and Swift is untrue.

"I just don’t pay attention to what I don't want to pay attention to," he said. “I turn everything else down on a dial. I don’t have any interest in tabloids. I know what I want to do, and that's this, and that’s what I am doing."

He later attends the premiere of her film Cats.

January 2020

Swift opens up about their relationship in her Netflix documentary, Miss Americana, saying that she was drawn to Alwyn's "wonderful, normal, balanced kind of life." Though he is not named, fans spot a glimpse of him in one of the scenes from backstage at her show.

Later that month, they attend the Golden Globes and even sit together, even going so far as holding hands and kissing.

February 2020

A month later, they're seen getting cozy at the NME Awards. Swift takes home the trophy for Best Solo Act.