And all the tabloids didn't help.


With a new album and plenty of other huge projects in the pipeline (a new beauty line, for one), Selena Gomez is keeping busy, but she's also taking the time to open up about herself, including telling her pal Miley Cyrus that she's been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and, in a new interview with Amy Schumer, that she felt that she lost control of her entire life while she was dating Justin Bieber. The two spoke about how the tabloids took away her "narrative" and how all she was doing was falling in love.

Gomez knows that she was tabloid fodder during her time with Bieber. While she'd go on to say that the entire relationship was "emotionally abusive," she added that on top of having her love life making headlines, she was dealing with lupus, a kidney transplant, and taking time off for her mental health. It never stopped and she says the media portrayed things in a way she didn't like.

"My intention was never to become a tabloid. So when things kind of happened that way, it got out of control. And then I was like, 'Wait, none of this is true.' The way the media has sometimes tried to explain things has made it sound really bad, when in reality there’s nothing wrong with the fact that I needed to go away or that I fell in love," she said. "I had to start opening up because people were taking away my narrative and it was killing me. I’m so young and I’m going to keep changing, and no one has the right to tell me how my life’s going."

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Gomez told Schumer that the helplessness was what prompted her to be more open on social media, since that was one thing she could control. She never intended on being a vocal advocate for anything, much less for mental health, but she gets that she's got a platform to help people, so she's doing it.

"I don't know if that was ever meant to be my role, but I love people. I care, a lot. I’ve gone through a lot of medical issues, and I know that I can reach people who are going through similarly scary things — an organ transplant, or being on dialysis, or going away for treatment. A huge part of why I have a platform is to help people," she said. "That’s why I think I’m okay with the magnitude. I mean, I'm not really okay with it — but I’m going to say that I am because it’s worth it. I know that I’m making someone somewhere feel good, or feel understood or heard, and that’s worth it for me."