And the engagement ring was a shoelace.


After her high-profile split from super-producer Jack Antonoff, Lena Dunham kept a low profile, but in a new interview with Cosmopolitan U.K., she explains that during the downtime, she was actually engaged. While she doesn't name names, she says that it happened while she and her boyfriend were snowed in.

Obviously, the engagement didn't make it into a full-blown wedding, but Dunham says that she learned from the situation and took some time for herself afterward. People notes that she was photographed with a boyfriend in 2018 after separating from Antonoff, though he was never identified. He proposed with the shoestring from a Timberland boot, Dunham said, but she just wasn't in the right place mentally, emotionally, and physically to really commit.

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"I'd just had a hysterectomy, I’d broken up with my boyfriend, I was in the process of breaking up with my business partner — I had no business buying a pair of shoes, [let alone] getting engaged,” she told the magazine. “Then I just went, ‘You know what? I’ve been dating since I was 15 years old. I’m allowed to take a break.'”

Dunham also spoke about her time with Antonoff, stating that it was a combination of work and just being in different places personally that made the relationship fizzle out. She still cares for him, she notes, and says that they're still good friends.

"I look back and we had a great ride, we cared for each other, but you know what? We were both starting our careers and that was our true passion. The love you have for someone doesn't disappear because you don't have them; it's just logistically it doesn't work anymore," she said. "I love him so much. He is a dear, dear friend of mine. Has it been easy every second? No, it's not easy to divide life with someone. There are definitely moments where I was catty, rude or sassy, but he has been beautifully accepting of those and I've been able to be accepting of his anger, too. What's really nice is we don't try to pretend that we don't have this history together, but we're also willing to move forward."

For Dunham, moving forward means taking a break from dating altogether."I’ve taken a hiatus from dating, which has been amazing for me," she explained, but also says that she's abstaining from "negative relationships" all around and has gotten "a lot clarity" from it.