Lance Bass Opens up About Struggles with IVF
His surrogate lost a pregnancy after 8 weeks.
Lance Bass and his husband, Michael Turchin, discussed their multiple attempts with IVF with Entertainment Tonight, revealing that their last surrogate lost a pregnancy after eight weeks. Bass opened up about the joy that he felt when he and Turchin received the good news about the pregnancy, which was the couple's ninth attempt, and the barrage of emotions that came when they learned about the loss. He noted that it's not uncommon and that he's found a support network in other couples who are also struggling with IVF.
"We unfortunately lost him after eight weeks, which happens to pretty much everyone when you're going through IVF," Bass told ET. "I didn't even know that as we were going through this, but we've met so many great couples who have the same story. So, you do feel a lot of support knowing other people have gone through it."
Bass told ET that he and Turchin, who he married in 2014, started trying for children almost immediately. The ninth attempt was the first time that one of the couple's surrogates had become pregnant, so losing the pregnancy was especially tough. He told ET that they'd learned the sex, which made things even harder.
"You try to trick yourself into not getting excited because you know anything can happen at any time, especially in those first few weeks when there’s a huge possibility that the [embryos] won't stick," Bass added. "You keep telling yourself that and trying not to get your hopes up, but you're always going to have those thoughts in the back of your brain where you're already planning out their lives. Especially once you know the sex — you can't help but fast-forward over their entire lives and imagine who they're going to be like, who they might marry and all kinds of stuff."
Bass continued, saying that he and his husband were still optimistic about having children.
"Getting over that has been hard. It's like all these hopes and dreams I had won't be happening this time," he said. "But everything happens for a reason and when it needs to happen, it'll have to happen."
The couple has already found their 10th egg donor and hasn't ruled out other avenues to parenthood, including adoption.
"Nine did not work, so now we're onto 10 and hopefully the next time will work," he continued. "I'm trying not to worry about it. Of course, in a perfect world I would love to have my own kids. But if it's not meant in the cards, then it's not meant in the cards and there are plenty of kids who need adopting. So, I'm not opposed to going right ahead and adopting if this fails next time."