Inside the May issue of InStyle, available on newsstands and for digital download April 15, actress and mother-of-two Kate Hudson sounds off on mom/work balance and the myth of perfect parenting. Below, Editorial Director Ariel Foxman tells us how her personal essay came to be. 

May 2016 Cover
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Last fall, at InStyle’s inaugural InStyle Awards, held at the spectacular Getty Center tucked in the hills of L.A.’s Brentwood, Kate Hudson presented the Style Icon Award to her close friend Gwyneth Paltrow. “From the moment I laid eyes on this woman, it was love at first sight,” started Kate, who went on to introduce her pal with one of the night’s incredible highlights: a multipage speech that was funny, thoughtful, genuine, self-aware, and smartly written. Of course, this was before Kate published her winning book Pretty Happy—an instant best seller. When the night was done, I bounded over to not only thank her for her participation but also congratulate her on such a beautiful piece. We talked about her talent and affinity, and it was then that I asked her to consider writing an essay, topic TBD, to be showcased in her cover story this month. Kate said she’d think about it, but I could already see her leaning to a place of yes—her ever-twinkling eyes registered the possibility of taking the dare.

We saw each other a couple of times in the months that followed, and we talked more about the option to contribute to her feature. She agreed. Our gorgeous cover shoot took place, and a few days later Kate turned in her writing. I had expected the piece to exude the hallmark Kate Hudson values—humor, warmth, accessibility—but even I was surprised by just how brave, vulnerable, and downright real Kate was willing to get.

In “Sometimes I Feel Like a Bad Mom,” Kate presents “thoughts from a working single mother of two.” Thoughts that I know will not only resonate with many of our readers but also unburden those caregivers who wake up each morning determined to find a perfect balance that inevitably escapes us all—because there’s no such thing as perfection, and balance is more about perception and intention than it is reality. Here, a sample of Kate's revelatory moments from her essay:

To Kate, who also tells us, “I’m big on manners. I’m big on politeness. I’m big on gratitude,” we say thank you for your very special early Mother’s Day gift: an invitation to think frankly and speak openly about mothers, parents, expectations, and possibilities.

To read Hudson's full essay, plus our exclusive interview with the star, pick up the may issue of InStyle, available on newsstands and for digital download April 15.