10 Dating Lessons We Learned from How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
It’s been 15 years since Kate Hudson and Matthew McConaughey struck rom-com gold with How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. The movie had all the makings of a great early-aughts chick flick: a smart and career-driven female lead, the heightened glitz and glamour of Manhattan, and a semi-absurd plot that somehow still managed to seem plausible.
As with any film, certain aspects don't quite translate a decade and a half later. In today's dating app-fueled culture, if twenty-something Andie Anderson (Hudson) met a guy she really liked IRL, she probably wouldn't do everything in her power to push him away—no matter the story she was writing for work. She would probably choose one of the randoms on Hinge for her experiment and actually pursue a relationship with the guy she was into, Ben (McConaughey). As for whether any decently successful and sensible person would put up with her antics? Likely not, even if a major advertising account was at stake. This is the Instagram age, and every documented love fern lives on forever—whether you want it to or not.
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But while Andie and Ben may have had a different story if How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days took place today, there's still plenty that we can learn about love from their courtship. Here are 10 dating lessons from the filmthat still ring true today.
1. Calling your significant other out on his or her BS is crucial.
Ben’s family invited Andie to join in on a rousing round of Bullshit, a card game that’s all about “being able to read people,” according to Ben. It was quickly clear that Ben had met his match—which made sense, since they were BSing each other for the duration of their relationship. Luckily, in the end, they dropped the acts and finally got real with one another—as we all should.
2. Never underestimate a man or woman on a mission.
Both Andie and Ben are proof of the fact that you really can achieve the unimaginable if you’re devoted enough—whether it’s to your significant other or to a bet. Seriously, why would Ben stay with a prospective partner who redecorated his bathroom in pink and stocked the medicine cabinet with Vagisil after only a few dates? Because he committed to a goal and wanted to land the ad campaign for a diamond company, that’s why. (Hopefully, in dating, your motivations are a little different.)
3. Always, always, always ask for details before agreeing to a date night activity.
If a pair of front-row tickets are on the line, don’t assume you’re going to a Knicks playoff game. If you fail to ask the proper questions about the plan, you will most likely end up at a Celine Dion concert (although who would be upset about this turn of events, we can’t imagine).
4. Don’t give weird names to your significant other’s body parts.
This one is pretty self-explanatory, but Ben did not appreciate his manhood being referred to as Princess Sophia. Just don’t do this.
5. And don’t call each other by overly cutesy nicknames, either.
When Andie repeatedly called Ben “Benny Boo-Boo” and "Benky," it got old—and fast. If you want to call each other by lovey-dovey nicknames behind closed doors, that’s your prerogative—but please don’t make your friends suffer through listening to it.
6. It’s important to give each other space.
All Ben wanted was to let loose with a boys’ night, but Andie wasn’t having it. Granted, she was trying to get him to break up with her. But even so, her intrusion upon his poker night was a prime example of what not to do in a relationship.
7. If you plan to see a couples’ therapist, do a quick background check on the counselor first.
First off, if you need to go to couples’ therapy only a week in, you should probably call it quits. However, if you are going to see a therapist under appropriate circumstances, do your due diligence beforehand to make sure that your shrink is legit—and not just your significant other’s BFF in disguise.
8. Don’t make a life-changing commitment unless you're ready for the shared responsibility.
If you’re at a point in your relationship where you’ve barely even committed to each other, you should probably wait on the whole pet adoption thing. Make sure you’re in it for the right reasons, and not just to take “little plaid family” photos—unless you’re OK sharing custody of your furball should things go south.
9. Don’t reach out to your potential future in-laws until you’re officially introduced—no matter what.
Andie struck up a relationship with Ben’s mom without his knowing, and it's safe to say, it freaked him out. Her phone calls with Glenda definitely crossed a line, and things are no different when it comes to reaching out over social media. Just don’t do it unless you have your partner’s blessing or have already met IRL.
10. You can’t run away from your relationship problems, no matter how fast your taxi is going.
At the end of the day, any and all relationship baggage is going to catch up with you. So instead of trying to escape it all by running off to a new city and a new life, get some actual closure—ideally before you’re in the middle of a bridge en route to the airport.
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