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The hottest days of the year call for a Summer Fling. This week, we're deep-diving into sex, dating, and relationship drama, here.

Gianina Thompson
Jul 26, 2018 @ 8:00 am

The Internet has been shipping Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard since the moment they declared themselves a couple over a decade ago.

But the actress admits that her husband wasn’t sold on the union as quickly: Shepard broke up with her after a few weeks of dating because he saw their relationship getting serious and said he wanted to continue casually seeing other people.

“It broke my heart,” the Bad Moms star says, “but it took him exactly 96 hours to realize he made the biggest mistake of his life.”

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Fast-forward to now: Bell and Shepard have been together for more than 10 years, married for four, and have two daughters, Lincoln, 5, and Delta, 3, who have become beloved regulars on Bell’s mega-popular Instagram feed. To celebrate their back-to-school season, Bell is teaming up with Old Navy’s cause ONward! and the fundraising platform Omaze for a contest that will send one lucky winner to LA for a $1,000 fall shopping spree and a singalong session with the Frozen star, benefiting the Boys & Girls Clubs. (That’s right, belting Let It Go in the shower all those times was for a good reason.)

As a parent, Bell admits, finding time to keep her relationship sexy can be a struggle. But her solution is worthy of imitation:

“Sometimes, we’ll look at each other and we’re like, ‘We need some intimacy and sex, like, right now,’” she says. “We’re just very honest about it.”

Honesty has always been Bell’s approach when it comes to talking about love. She was candid when she and Shepard started couples’ therapy and has no problem announcing exactly what she finds hottest about her husband. Here, Bell gets real about what she learned from marriage counseling, scheduling sex, and how to opt out of school drop off mom-shaming.

Do you sing Frozen songs with your kids?
My kids would disown me. They do not like to discuss the fact that I’m part of the cartoon. They think it’s a tiny bit cool but really see it as a story they digested as their own, and me getting involved and knowing about it kind of messes it up for them. So, no cool points for Mom as Anna.

As a kid, what was you most excited to wear on the first day of school?
Do you remember Hypercolor? They were in when I was young, along with having the same color sneakers as your socks. I usually went with hot pink or magenta. And wearing extra-large men’s socks scrunched all the way up your calves were also very vital to your survival in my elementary school.

Is there pressure to look or act a certain way at school drop off?
Since day one, I’ve dropped my kids off in my pajamas because the mornings are busy and I feel more comfortable wearing them. I live by the Eleanor Roosevelt quote, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent,” so despite having heard stories of mom-shaming, I’ve never experienced it because I simply did not consent.

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There is nothing wrong with experiencing love but you don’t need to punctuate it with marriage. If we learned anything from [Frozen’s] Anna of Arendelle, you don’t marry your love at first sight. Dax and I were together and had a child six years before we got married.

As a traditional girl from the Midwest, I remember questioning Dax on why we weren’t getting married earlier in our relationship. It wasn’t to threaten him but to simply learn his feelings on it. He said, “Because how I treat you isn’t going to be dictated by a piece of paper that is filed in the government library somewhere. How I treat you is going to be a commitment I make to your faith, sealed with a kiss and a handshake, and it’s going to live in action every day. That piece of paper is irrelevant.” And I agree. If you’re in love with someone, act like you’re in love with them. You don’t need to rush to sign a paper. The paper doesn’t make you more in love.

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How do you and Dax find time for sexy moments?
It’s a different kind of sexy when you’ve been together for 10 years, and those moments aren’t always readily available because there are little people in the room. But you look for the holes and continue to communicate. We’re very honest with each other when we feel forgotten by the other.

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What tools have you gained from marriage counseling?
The biggest tool we’ve gotten has been recognizing our triggers. We’ve figured out where we fight poorly and have learned how to hit the pause button because adrenaline and cortisol are never going to help a fight.

We’ve had intense disagreements, and then the next day we’ll both be so exhausted of the other person that we completely sweep the issue under the rug. In sync, we’ll say, “I just literally can’t hear you talk anymore. Let’s just forget it. You win.” So as much as we’re taking our communications seriously, we also take everything with a grain of salt. When you have two fighters in a room, which we both are, sometimes it just becomes a power battle.

What’s the silliest argument you’ve had?
The other night we got into a fight because Dax watched an episode of “Succession” without me, which he would hate if I had done, so I was like, “You made a bad, dirty move,” and made him re-watch it with me. Which by the way, Dax’s worst nightmare is re-watching a television episode or movie. It’s like an unheard experience for him.

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How has your relationship evolved?
It gets deeper and more solid, and starts to contribute to other areas of my life. It’s like building a house. It takes a lot of work but once you have the house, you can now do work inside of it because it’s stable and supportive. The depth of our love has produced so many wonderful aspects and security.

What would Dax say is the sexiest thing about you?
My confidence, for sure.

What is the sexiest thing about Dax?
Not his confidence because that is a mutually overwhelming amount of confidence for me! But his ability to lighten the mood and his comedy is its own musical throughout life.

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