How to Graciously Handle a Sexist Troll, According to Ariana Grande
Ariana Grande isn’t as sweet as her ponytail makes her look. If you come for her, she’ll bite back. That became obvious on Thursday when a Twitter troll used the platform to criticize her relationship with ex Mac Miller (aka Malcolm McCormick), just days after reports swirled that the pop star is getting cozy with Saturday Night Live star Pete Davidson.
If you’re not an Arianator, know this: While Grande was making headlines for her new beau, the rapper was arrested and slapped with a DUI and hit-and-run after driving his Mercedes-Benz into a pole. Of course, Grande wasn’t involved in the incident, but people connected his crash with their breakup.
And that’s where the Twitter drama begins. User @FlintElijah blamed the accident on Grande, calling the situation “heartbreaking,” and insinuating that she didn’t care about music he had previously written about her.
“Mac Miller totalling his G wagon and getting a DUI after Ariana Grande dumped him for another dude after he poured his heart out on a ten song album to her called the divine feminine is just the most heartbreaking thing happening in Hollywood,” he wrote. We can think of other heartbreaking Tinseltown stories (like, you know, sexual harassment), but let’s continue.
Grande wasn’t having any of this, and spoke up in her own defense. In a nut shell, she delivered a to-the-point feminist statement explaining why it’s not right to blame women for a man’s emotional baggage, much less insinuate that his misbehavior is her fault.
"[A]bsurd that you minimize female self-respect and self-worth by saying someone should stay in a toxic relationship because he wrote an album about them, which [by the way] isn’t the case,” she wrote, clarifying that only the song “Cinderella” off Miller’s 2016 album The Divine Feminine is about her.
She continued, “I am not a babysitter or a mother and no woman should feel that they need to be. I have cared for him and tried to support his sobriety & prayed for his balance for years (and always will of course) but shaming / blaming women for a man’s inability to keep his s— together is a very major problem. Let’s please stop doing that.”
Grande concluded that she didn’t always share the nuances of their relationship with the public, and that she’ll continue praying for him.
In a surprising turn of events, @FlintElijah replied with a thoughtful, pointed response in which he apologized for placing blame on the singer. “My sincerest apology, Ariana,” he wrote. "I'm very sorry I hurt you and I'm very sorry you feel my tweet stigmatizes women for ending a toxic relationship. That wasn't my intention at all."
Grande graciously accepted his apology, tweeting, “thank you for hearing me, I appreciate your response v much. Sending u love.”