Recreating the hottest shower sex scene you've ever watched isn't as hard as you think.

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Shower Sex Positions to Try
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There are certainly many reasons people generally have sex in bed. It's comfortable, and it's the most convenient way to follow up your romp with snuggling or sleep. But sticking to the same ol' routine for too long can result in a snoozefest. Thankfully, taking your routine out of the bedroom could make for even more pleasure — and, in the case of shower sex, a seriously steamy time.

"Shower sex can be pretty hot and passionate, movie-like even sometimes," says Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D., New York University professor of Human Sexuality and a sexpert for LELO. "It shows raw desire for each other and brings a level of novelty in a relationship, providing a nice break from the routine of the bedroom as most people's go-to location for sex. Seeing each other naked and wet can be quite arousing too, and the hot water can feel soothing and relaxing."

Jess O'Reilly, Ph.D., Astroglide's Resident Sexologist, agrees, adding, "Any change of location can heighten awareness and sensitivity. And the texture and temperature of the water can awaken nerve endings across the entire body to promote full-body sensations of pleasure." 

As sexy as that might sound, it's natural to find yourself feeling intimidated about how to have shower sex comfortably. Here, expert-approved tips and shower sex positions to get it on while soaping up. 

First, a Few Best Shower Sex Practices

One of your biggest concerns about shower sex could very well be losing your balance, slipping, and falling — something that can happen to even the most limber of us even when you're not trying to get it on in a narrow, wet space. 

"It's not always as smooth as in the movies, it certainly has its challenges," says Vrangalova. "People can slip and fall, the number of positions is more limited, water is not a lubricant so penetration can be uncomfortable and painful, soap can get into your mouth, etc. That said, with some prep and care, all of these potential drawbacks can be minimized or worked around, so it's really worth taking a shot." 

To maximize your chances of minimizing these bumps in the road, O'Reilly as well as Amy Baldwin, sex educator, sex and relationship coach, and co-host of the Shameless Sex Podcast and Kristine D'Angelo, a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach, offer a few simple dos and don'ts.

Shower Sex Don'ts:

  • Hold onto the towel bar or faucets, as the weight of your bodies and their movement can tear these fixtures right out of the tiled wall. Instead, use the side of the tub for support or press your entire upper body up against the wall for added stability.
  • Don't shy away from bringing a waterproof sex toy in the shower with you to take things up a notch.
  • Be mindful when it comes to using lube. "While the shower is a great location for new and exciting sex, the water might rain on your lubrication parade," says Baldwin. "I recommend adding a silicone-based lubricant such as Uberlube as it's long-lasting, water-resistant, and feels amazing on the skin." 

Shower Sex Dos: 

  • Go as fast or as slow as you like. "Taking your time to lather up your partner's body can create steamy (pun intended) anticipation building up that sexual energy between you and your partner," says D'Angelo.
  • Use anti-slip mats. This is key to surviving slippery shower sex.
  • Consider having one partner stay in place while the other moves around. You can install a bench seat or corner seat that allows one partner to be seated.

Top Steamy Shower Sex Positions

1. Standing Oral

This is an option that works well for anyone who's just beginning to dip their toe into shower play, as it can be easier to switch up your position in the moment and to find a more comfortable position.  

"If you're giving oral to a person with a penis, have them stand with their back against the wall and get down on your knees," suggests O'Reilly. "If you're under the flow of water, make sure you have space to breathe."

You might also sit on the edge of a bathtub facing your standing partner, says D'Angelo. "This gives you the perfect height to give them oral pleasure," she notes.

And if you're receiving oral as a person with a vagina, stand upright and place one foot up on the side of the tub or on a shower stool, says O'Reilly. "Have your partner sit or kneel beneath you," she notes.

2. One Partner on Top 

If your shower has a tub, you can take advantage of it by having the penetrating partner lie down in the tub while the receiving partner hops on top, says D'Angelo. "While the water rains down, you can either face your partner or away," she notes. 

This can be made even more comfortable if you have a seat-shelf or bench in the shower, says Aliyah Moore, Ph.D., a certified sex therapist with SexualAlpha. "While pumping up and down, play with your clit or nipples or guide your partner's hands on your erogenous zones for added pleasure," she notes.

3. Mutual Masturbation

This is an "amazing" move that might also appeal especially to beginners, says D'Angelo. "You can do this standing facing each other or with one person seated and your partner standing over you," she notes. "It's fun to watch your partner touch themselves." 

And if you want to bust out a toy, Moore recommends considering the LELO Gigi 2 G-spot vibrator. "The flattened tip hits the G-spot well," she notes. "It also doubles as a clitoral massager when you hold it upside down." 

4. Standing Doggy Style

Vrangalova says this is the most common shower sex position and one of her favorites. The receiving partner faces the shower wall with their hands pressed against it while the other then penetrates from behind with their penis, toys, or fingers. 

She adds that this position is also great for rimming (aka analingus), which some people might avoid elsewhere due to cleanliness concerns but might be more up for trying in the shower. 

5. Standing Missionary

Turn the previously mentioned position around, and you have this one, which is basically missionary standing up. Vrangalova advises the receiving partner to lift one leg — or place it on a footstool, shower chair, or bench seat — so the other can then enter while facing them. 

Although it might get passed off as vanilla, this is the second most common shower sex position, according to Vrangalova, which is no surprise because having sex face-to-face boosts intimacy and allows for lots of kissing and touching.