"I had managed to keep my pregnancy quiet and I absolutely collapsed inside."

By Christopher Luu
Oct 02, 2020 @ 6:12 pm

In a message of support to Chrissy Teigen and John Legend, Kate Beckinsale shared her story of pregnancy loss. In an Instagram post, Beckinsale revealed that she lost a baby at 20 weeks and urged anyone criticizing Teigen for sharing her story to take a moment and reflect before passing judgment. 

Beckinsale addressed the people who called Teigen out for sharing images from the hospital, telling them that there is no set protocol for the situation and that everyone should be allowed to handle the emotions however they feel is appropriate.

"I've noticed people criticizing @chrissyteigen for sharing deeply intimate photos of the loss of her baby. As if there's some protocol during soul-scouring calamity that, if not observed, emboldens people who do not know her or her family to say how she should be handling the unimaginable," she wrote.

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Beckinsale recounted her own experience, down to the details of what happened to her body as well as what she went through emotionally. She noted that it was "the loneliest, most soul destroying period of time."

"Years ago, I lost a baby at 20 weeks. I had managed to keep my pregnancy quiet and I absolutely collapsed inside and no one would have known," Beckinsale added. "There is grief, shame and shock so often that come with an experience like this, plus the heartbreak of your body continuing, after the loss, to act as if it had a child to nurture."

"Your milk comes in, with no one to feed," she added, noting that the situation can be even harder "if you are not in the position of having an emotionally connected, supportive partner like Chrissy has." 

"I think it's an honour to be allowed into another persons [sic] grief, especially with a subject like this which so often puts a woman into that hall of mirrors state of life continuing as if the world hasn't, for you, come to a bloody and terrible halt," she finished. "Sending so much love to the Legend family, but also so much to the women and couples who have kept it quiet and suffered. I know there are so many."