"I hooked up with a girl and was like, 'I like this a lot more.' It felt better. It felt right."

By Isabel Jones
Mar 11, 2021 @ 9:52 am
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Ahead of the SXSW premiere of Demi Lovato's revelatory YouTube docuseries Dancing with the Devil, the singer opened up about her sexuality in an interview with Glamour.

Lovato told the publication she's "really queer" but not prepared to "come out to the world" just yet.

"I know who I am and what I am, but I'm just waiting until a specific timeline to come out to the world as what I am," she said. 

"When I started getting older, I started realizing how queer I really am," she continued. "This past year I was engaged to a man, and when it didn't work, I was like, This is a huge sign. I thought I was going to spend my life with someone. Now that I wasn't going to, I felt this sense of relief that I could live my truth."

Demi Lovato Said She's "Too Queer" to Be With a Cis Man Right Now
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That "man" is former fiancé Max Ehrich. Despite the engagement, which was broken off last fall, Lovato told the magazine she feels "too queer" to be with a cisgender man at the moment.

"I hooked up with a girl and was like, 'I like this a lot more.' It felt better. It felt right," she went on. "Some of the guys I was hanging out with — when it would come time to be sexual or intimate, I would have this kind of visceral reaction. Like, 'I just don't want to put my mouth there.' It wasn't even based on the person it was with. I just found myself really appreciating the friendships of those people more than the romance, and I didn't want the romance from anybody of the opposite sex."

As for the situation with Ehrich, Lovato blames herself for not trusting her intuition.

"Because I denied my intuition of all the red flags that had popped up, I had no one else to blame but myself," she said. "So I was like, 'How am I ever going to trust again?' But really, I was like, 'Bitch, you should have trusted yourself. If you had trusted yourself, you wouldn't have ended up in this position.'"